Anger Management!

"Count from one to ten, slowly, Jui", my mom used to tell me when I was small. "This will give you time to breathe, relax, think and decide whether to be angry or contemplate about the reason behind your anger", she used to say. "If you aint still pacified, count more", was her idea of anger managment!

We always say he has a short temper, she has a real bad temper. Temper is the tendency to become angry very quickly.

This disposition may be inherited or acquired. We may have seen people close to us getting angry and dominating, and we may have got influenced by this in our early childhood. Or due to situations we face or frustrations we have during our growing up phase, we tend to become ill-tempered. Or in adulthood, as we age, we loose our patience and get offended easily and become more wrathful!

We tend to defend our 'short tempered' charateristic by saying "I aint short tempered, just that I react quickly to bullshit" - thus justified! If you dont control your temper, your temper will start controlling you. Anger is the only thing you should put off until tomorrow.

It is hard to control our temper sometimes, it is! But if we are patient enough and think and breathe, we will escape a larger misery that can occur by our harsh words or actions against someone. when we do something while in a fit of anger, we usually do everything wrong. Let the whirlwind settle down, then think and act.

People with a great deal of experience over the years, learn not to lose temper. Its a learning process of holding your temper inside you for a long time and at the same time it is as important to master the control of your anger once it bursts out.

Even if you have a good heart, one act of indignation corrupts your image!
Anger is obviously an emotion. Everybody shows it! Its a part and parcel of being. But the amount and nature of projection - its Rein should be in your hands (read Mind!).

Many a times - low tolerance for stupidity, immaturity and ignorance triggers our anger. On such instances, the best way would be to 'Overlook' such things. Reacting on unnecessary comments is of no use. 'Pay no attention' would be the best motto to follow!

"Make your anger so expensive that no one can afford it" - is the quote i love. I am trying to manage my anger because I have come to know that, anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die! I know i will not be punished 'For' my anger but will be punished 'By' my anger.




                                                                                               JUI.