My kids, my world!


'Parenting', the most talked about topic today - we hear lectures, attend workshops, refer parents' guide, have counselling sessions, read articles. Why are we taking so much pressure of being a parent today? Our parents never were so particular for being ideal ones, we never saw them attending such workshops or even panicking with guilt if they missed one.








As far as I am concerned, my parents were chilled enough to raise my sibling and me, well. They had their share of work pressures and tensions but we never witnessed a wrinkle on their forehead when it came to parenting. They were relaxed and calm when handling us.

So what has changed today? The rat-race? The social media and the hype? The urge to be the best parents and have the most ideal kids? .... And how would you possibly determine an ideal parent? - One who provides anything and everything to the kids? Or one who is strict enough that the kids obey him? .... Whats the criteria?

Parenting has become a difficult "Roadies task" which has to be completed in order to maintain your status and position in this society, else, you will be trolled! ......Give it a thought... Parenting is an ongoing process - not something to 'rush into' and 'give results'.

" I do so much for my kid but he doesnt value it".....The sign of good parenting is not the child's behaviour but, its the parents' behaviour. Children learn more from what we are rather than what we teach them. Being a parent is learning about the strengths you never knew you had. Its about dealing with the fears you never knew existed.

Everybody out there, is waiting, to judge you as a parent. But why are we getting judged?

Greatest gift we can give our kids is to believe in them. Not crushing their desires, their likings, their views, their ideas. Instead encourage them to do things on their own. Let them explore, Let them fail, Let them make mistakes - just guide them along , dont spoon feed.

As a mother, I too am working on it. In the process, I have made my mistakes but I am willing to undo them. I am learning. There is no such thing as a 'perfect' parent, we just have to be 'real'. Kids are always watching us, so we must be careful about how we behave. Try to be who we needed when we were young.

Going through endless articles on being a perfect parent isnt going to help. Each one has his own way to do things. Go with your intuition. Its about raising and celebrating the kids you have and not the kids you thought you would have! Cherish each and every moment with them, if not, the time will fly and you would regret it later. Have patience, loads of love and care, be with them when they need you, enjoy little things - all this adds up to being a wonderful parent. Theres nothing like positive or negative parenting. There are no Do's and Dont's. Its all situational! Kids need your presence more than the presents you give them. As your kids grow they may forget what you said, but wont forget how you made them feel, for sure. Learn and unlearn, give and take!
Its impossible to always protect your kids against disappointment in life. Teach them to face their problems bravely.

Its true that being a parent means loving your kids more than you have ever loved yourself!



                                                                                                                      JUI.

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