Letting go of that mom guilt.

 "Mumma, how can I be like Hulk?", my younger son had asked me this, 6 years ago, when he was 4 years old. I replied with a mommywala gyan, "By eating healthy food".

"And how do I become green?", he added.

"Well, by eating leafy vegetables", I had quickly answered.

I know this was a point blank lie. He would've never been a Hulk. But the best part is he loves all the leafy vegetables till date and eats them happily. He is 10 and now he knows that mom had lied to him about the Hulk thing.

But dear moms, you know what? I'm not even a bit guilty about this. If it's beneficial for my kids, there's no harm in lying.

Somethings are unavoidable when it comes to parenting and there shouldn't be any guilt attached.

I don't want him to hang out with certain friends of his. And to keep him away from them, I brainwash him my way. What's wrong in this, you tell me? Some kids are very arrogant and ill-behaved. And my kid will surely pick up that if he continues to be with them. So as a mother, I don't want a bad company for my son. Am I guilty of asking him to end his friendship with such kids? Absolutely not.

My elder son is a teenager. He is matured enough to study on his own. I don't have to keep hovering over him for ten things like I do for my younger one. Yet, now that he is growing up, adolescent, I've to tell him certain things. I've talk to him about girls and such stuff. When I ask him not make girlfriends at this age, I don't need to feel guilty about shunning his freedom. Yes, he can select his subjects, he can decide which college to join, he can decide what to wear. But it's the phase in his life, where he has to study and achieve a position for himself. So I've to keep him on track till he gets through.

As a parent, you, no doubt, feel guilty of doing certain things. You feel bad when you reject their wishes, "not now we will see later". You feel sad when you scold them, yell at them. But isn't it for their betterment? There is no such thing as perfect parents. When you are real, long story short, that's how you succeed at parenting.

If you are fit only then your family can be. So don't feel guilty if you indulge in self-care or some me time. No one can pour from an empty cup. Don't feel bad for ignoring things at your side. Kids need to learn somethings on their own.

The thing about parenting rules is that there aren't any. That's what makes it so difficult! ~ Evan Mcgregor.

So enjoy some guilt free parenting!

AUTHOR'S NOTE: "Being a parent can be tough. But just remember in your child's eyes, nobody does it better than you" ~ Unknown. 

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