Shaadi ka laddoo!

 "Yes, I don't earn as much as you do. I don't have to go to the office. But what about the chores at home? Do you believe they happen by magic?"

Yes we have  maids, I've help, but is that all to be done? Clothes are washed but have to be folded put back into the cupboard. Who does that? Utensils are washed but have to be dried and arranged. Who does that? While sweeping and mopping, everyday our maid, displaces all the things, furniture etc. from its original position. How do you think it goes back to the bona-fide place? Whenever the maids don't come who does all the work? Ahh! And what about the kids? Have you ever changed the diapers? Have you ever cleaned their potties and pukes? Bacche toh aise hi bade ho gaye na? You feel delighted when someone praises our kids. Who makes them ready for school? Who packs their tiffins? Who makes them do their homework, assignments, projects, activities? Who prepares them for Olympiads, competitions and events? Who runs around at the eleventh hour to get their supplies for the due activity, so that they won't be punished in the class? Doctors appointments, illness, checkups, medications, who looks after that? .....", Savita goes on and on and finally breaks into tears.

She never had felt so inadequate. Was she useless just because she was a housewife? she thought. She had never stepped out of her house to earn, even after being qualified enough. She had settled being a good mother, wife and daughter-in-law. And she was happy, until she was compelled to feel inferior.

Marriage is also about understanding, trust and care, not just love, lust and romance. But when, in a heated argument, a husband says that the woman, who has left behind her blood ties and secured a knot with him, leaving behind the luxury of doing nothing at her maika, and slogging at her sasural now, that woman, his wife, isn't doing anything fruitful, it hurts, deeply.

And this agony made Savita burst into tears.

Suraj wasn't at all an awful husband. He loved Savita. He took her out for dinners and shopping, whenever she would say. He cared for her happiness. He didn't misbehave with her. But this morning when he spoke those words, "Tum karti hi kya ho din bhar ghar mei?", that was the breaking point.

Savita couldn't bare to hear what her husband thought of her. Her sacrifice of her career, her desire to succeed in life, all that was in vain, she thought. "I could've neglected the kids and this house for my ambitions. I could've climbed the corporate ladder if I would've taken up that job opportunity which had come my way. But I wanted to be there, for you, our kids and this house. I wanted to keep this family happy. And I am not boasting of how valuable my renunciations are. You never stopped me from working, yet I was adamant on staying at home. But that doesn't give you any right to mock my diligence", Savita said in a stern tone, wiping her tears.

Suraj realised his mistake. "I shouldn't have said that. I am sorry Savi", he said and hugged her. "I know all of that. I can work outside, without any stress, as I am aware that you are taking care here. I am relaxed that I don't have to take pressure of kids' school activities, their day to day work. I know you are strong enough to hold this frontier making it possible for me to win battles at work. I was angry and in that moment I said something that I don't really mean".

He rubbed her cheeks off the tears, tuck the strands of her hair, at the back of her ears. And placed a subtle peck on her cheeks.

Suraj gave her a glass of water. Savita chugged it down and exhaled. She let her self calm a bit and said, "I also overreacted. But I guess my monologue worked", and she smiled. Suraj grinned too.

This is how their marriage is going steady. There are ups and downs. But they talk it out. There are phases where a husband and a wife get disconnected on the lines of being a man and woman. But then they sort things out instead of complicating them more.

Men and women are different, it's a fact. But when they get married, they've to strike a balance to retain the relationship,  just like Savita and Suraj.

And this is their marriage story. Hope you like it!

'Shaadi ka laddoo, Jo khaye woh pachtaye, Jo na khaye lalchaye',

We all have heard this. So if you want to eat it, do it right!

AUTHOR'S NOTE: "There's no assured happily everafter, we've to work on it, to make it happen"~ JUI.

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