When the remainder is zero!

 It's 'March Ending' as they say in financial language. When it is time to tally all the debits and credits of the entire year, balance the financial statements, and do a proper hisaab of the whole year. Pay off the taxes that are pending, clear the backlogs and arrears, fundamentally even out anything and everything that's unsettled, unconcluded.

This applies to our life too! March is getting over, we recently celebrated our New year, 'Gudhi Padwa', so the new beginnings are commenced. So why not audit how our life has been so far?

On this journey called life, the family, your clan, is the entity that's ceaselessly with you, through the ups and downs. They fight, they argue, they sulk, sometimes are even kittle, but are constantly there.

My younger one many a times, ignores my instructions. Has so many excuses for not doing certain things, tries to barter his tiffin for some junk food his friend has got and ends up bringing the homemade food back untouched, gets scolded by me for this and promises to not do it again. Well, after a few days repeats the mistake, and argues to prove how he is right. And this is a vicious cycle, I must tell you. I get angry, annoyed. I give him a lecture on how homemade food is always better than junk, which he already knows, yet, often, surrenders to his taste buds. Which he regrets sometimes, at times overlooks.

But when this argument specialist falls ill, he becomes this mellowed down kitten, that rubs it's paws against the mummy cat, wanted to be hugged and caressed. "Please massage my forehead Mumma. Also my legs are paining", he says.

His eyes brimming with that innocence filled helplessness, makes me forget all his arguments that he had with me yesterday, his antipathy towards me that he hurled through these same eyes and all the murmuring I did while washing his tiffin with remnants of food that I had cooked getting up early in the morning.

I hug him tightly and kiss his forehead. Then massage it applying some ointment, gently. He smiles and says that he feels better now. And won't this mommy too heal with her little one?

How do you keep accounts for this? It's an asset for sure that takes away all the burden of any liability you had or were trying to load unnecessarily, getting all hyped.

We plan to go for a family dinner and I ask boys to get dressed up. Uptil now, just 2 years ago, they used to blindly wear anything that I bought for them, or that I suggested them to wear, wherever we were going. But now, they are growing up and 'evolving', that's the right word I suppose, so they have their own ideas.

This T-shirt irritates my skin, these shorts are not my style, I don't want to wear sneakers, I don't want to wear crocs, I want full pants, I don't want full pants....so on and so forth. And with each of their counters, the mercury of this mommy's thermometer starts to liquefy more and more, and then bursts when things go out of control. Then mommy has to keep yelling, even after she is ready. Mommy gets upset that her makeup and dress get ruined till we finally sit in the car.

Daddy is as cool as a fish in a pool. He has nothing to say as the drama has it's show playing only in front of mommy. When they sit in the car they are as quiet as a mute swan. So daddy can hear only mommy speaking and that too in harsh tones.

....Why can't you hurry up? Why do you ask me if you don't want to wear what I suggest? Now that you're grown up, you don't need your mom, till recently you couldn't even wash your own potty. And now you are arguing with me on every small and big thing......

But when we reach the venue and are having dinner, this mommy forgets all the noise that happened earlier and makes sure all that is ordered is as per their taste, what the kids enjoy eating, what's their favourite dessert. And daddy smiles as he looks at her, how she was minutes ago lecturing and furious, and how lovingly she's serving their favourite food to the two pieces of her heart.

Likeso, the family has it's differences, but it overcomes all of that and embraces one another. Don't keep anything pending, no emotions nor niggling thoughts, settle everything when it comes to your family and your loved ones.

That is how I would sum up my March for you. The sheets are balanced, reconciled, the two columns are matched and the remainder is zero.....a perfectly tallied balance sheet!

AUTHOR'S NOTE: 'Life is like a balance sheet, one wrong entry could change everything'~ Unknown.

Hence, make memories with your family so, at the each year ending you will have your hearts flowing with happiness and contentment, without any suspense accounts lingering!

My take on 'Highlights of my family'

If you like my blog hit the heart button ♥️, there's a comment box for suggestions and comments, for more, keep following!!!