Relationships...The good, The bad, The ugly...

 

"Nothing is perfect, Life's messy, Relationships are complex, Outcomes are uncertain, People are irrational!" ~ Hugh Mackay.

We have a 'Good Relationship'...hmmm now that's a tricky thing to say these days. How would you define Good in a relationship? You are helpful, your conversations are without fights, you are understanding???....Well! Yes...could be.

Good relationships aren't built in a day, just like Rome! It takes a lot of effort, mutually (mutual...that is most important ). You have to sometimes take a step back, sometimes trust even if you have doubts, you have to keep faith in the person and the relationship. Knowing your perfections and imperfections, and still being by your side, is what a good companion can do! So, does that mean you've to sacrifice always? No, not really...you've every right to question... But then believe in the answers too! Communication, appreciation and comprehension are the pillars to escalate the strength of any relationship.

There's always a reason why you meet people in life. But then after meeting certain people you tend to know that this relationship is shiftless, bad. Bad Relationships...how do they go bad?

At times you can't control your behaviour nor do you want the burden to do so. You offend, you defend, you don't want to be disrespected, to be lied to, to be mistreated.....and then sometimes you sustain and other times you give up.

"Assumptions are the termites of relationships!" ~ Henry Winkler.

Breaking up is easy, but fixing the problem is the real remedy. You've to fixate on ten beautiful things your relationship has given you, instead of clinging onto one bad thing that happened. Like they say, "Just because there's a bad chapter doesn't mean that the whole story has a bad ending!"

They say a bad relationship makes you feel alone, more than when you were single or solo. But then dragging it to make yourself more lonely....isn't a great choice too!

It's a strange thing....once you had named a relationship as good, suddenly becomes bad one day!

One bad relationship could make you not want to fall in love again, not want to trust again, neither rely on someone.

Having said this, every so often, Goodbyes are inevitable too!

It's better to end that's militating, distressing, or marring, for you. When a bad relationship starts turning Ugly...its always better to stop. These days, more than often, conversations are limited to texting. Texting, many a times, is misleading...you write something and the other person interprets something else....leading to misunderstandings, mistrust, misery. The subliminal messages, criticism, unhealthy gossips, is more so disturbing....making the relationships ugly. Nowadays, physical intimacy has become easy and love is out of context....insecurities and jealousy is in boom. It's sad but it's true!

Ugly relationships can be a disaster to display. It takes a toll on not only your physical but mental health too. So it's better to cease than to please!

The good, the bad and the ugly, sides of relationships are peculiar and distinctive, vary from person to person. It is up to us, Whether to test the elasticity of the relationship or to hit the brakes in a whip, Whether to compromise or to say goodbyes!

At the end of the day, we all need people, we all need some commitment, some loyalty, some love, some persistence, some patience.....to build a strong relationship.

"Happily ever after is not a fairy tale. It's a choice!" ~ Fawn Weaver.

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